Insecure S4:E1 : Chicks before Dicks?
So within the first 5 seconds of the show, my heart dropped hearing Issa talking on the phone and sharing that she and Molly were no longer friends. Yall know I love a good black girl friendship and I’m so sad that Issa and Molly are gonna hit a bump in their friendship that lasts more than 5 minutes of the episode. While I’m sure the fallout will be bad, something tells me that Molly and Issa will work it out by season’s end and get back in each other’s good graces.
In the season 4 opener, we find Issa energized by the planning of her Block Party venture with her newfound homegirl, Condola. The audience is kept on the edge of their seats as we anticipate how Issa will discover the tea that we’ve been sippin since last season, Condola is dating Issa’s unemployed for 5 years and finally gets an entry-level position at 32 ass ex-boyfriend Lawrence. The bomb is finally dropped with a messy intervention from Tiffany in Condola’s office. Condola and Issa both seem shook by the news, but Issa quickly recovers and tells Condola it’s no big deal. Throughout the rest of the episode, you see the two of them struggle to nurture their budding friendship but the awkwardness of sharing a man is proving to be quite the obstacle. I personally would have dropped the nigga and kept the homegirl and what I found really interesting while watching the social media discourse is NO ONE ELSE IS SUGGESTING THIS. Folks are either entertaining the possibility of Condola and Issa pushing through the awkwardness of sharing a dick or dropping their friendship altogether. Why no one wanna drop the nigga?! Here are my arguments as to why Condola and Issa should choose each other.
Lawrence judged the hell out of Condola for being a divorce. He only took her seriously after his daddy had a conversation with him about adjusting his unrealistic expectations. (The fact that is his grown ass sat unemployed for FIVE YEARS is enough for him to permanently lose is judgment card but I digress)
Condola is the friend Issa needs in the glow up phase in her life. Issa has not only finally discovered a sense of direction but homegirl has gathered the cojones to pursue it. Condola has been a great source of support and because their relationship is new, her perception of Issa is not marred by Issa’s previous failures
I don’t like Lawrence and don’t wanna see him all happy and seemingly having it all before Issa (team #petty, I know)
I get it. Dating niggas is STRESSFUL and if you have the desire to partner as you get older the ticking of the invisible internal clock gets louder. But in my experience I’ve grown and learned the most about myself in all roles I perform outside of romantic partner and I’d hate for either one of these ladies to miss out on a really good relationship over…Lawrence. Ugh *shudders in disgust*
Molly starts off the season still stressed by work but vowing to adopt a better look on life. This is becoming a common theme for Insecure season openers but I’m not judging cause I too vow to be a new bitch at the start of every year. She seems to be dating and cozying up quite well with her lil Asian bae. A car ride to Issa’s mixer throws a small pebble into the otherwise still pond of their relationship. Molly’s emotional immaturity and a tendency for passive-aggressive communication further compounds what would normally be a minor disagreement at most. Asian Bae disclosed that he was dating other people. Now before we roast Molly well done, I wanna acknowledge her feelings. Yes, it is common practice for both parties to see other folks until an agreement is made to only see each other, but imagine you have been seeing a nigga for a lil bit, yall going on bowling dates and kissing, you’ve shared enough about your life that he can make a bet for how to resolve a beef you have with your coworker, you know doing all the shit a people do when they like each other. It would sting at minimum to find out that yall’’s connection wasn’t enough or that he had the time and emotional capacity to attempt to replicate that with other people. I get it. But what I don’t understand is why Molly’s grown ass could not just communicate to the man that she wants to be exclusive. I’ve been in the same situation and got my feels hurt and even if I didn’t feel the need to communicate with my wanna be bae, I would at least be smart enough to not hold it against my friend, who is hosting a big event, for not stopping what she was doing and hear me whine like a lil baby. For the most part I really do understand Molly and her emotions but her behavior is a straight no no.
The writers make it kinda obvious that this is the first stone that begins to chip away at Molly and Issa’s friendship that will lead to the inevitable big break up. I’m curious to see what other things will sour in this friendship.
In the comments, let me know if you would befriend someone who is dating your ex? Are you team chicks before dicks?